The Love of Your Life

One of the best things about Islam is that it’s a deen–a total, comprehensive, complete, and perfect way of life, and it governs every aspect of life from large-scale social phenomena (such as marriage) to the way you eat and sleep.

For people who are dating, subhanallah, they say they’re looking for that “special someone” or “the right person.” But they continue dating for 6 months, a year, two years, five years, TEN years, they have kids–they’re still just dating–and they STILL don’t know! And when someone “better” comes along, they jump ship!

 

But subhanallah, in our deen we have salaatul istikhaara, a prayer for indecision. Anytime you’re not sure about something, just hit up the nearest sink for wudoo’, pray two rakaahs (or omit this part, if you’re pressed for time) and ask Allah for guidance, with the du’a the Prophet (صلي الله عليه وسلم) taught us:

 

 

 

Transliteration: Allahumma in kunta ta lamu anna (hathal-amra*) khayul-lee fi deenee wama ashi wa ajila amri wa’ajilah, faqdurhu lee, wayassirhu lee, thumma-barik lee fih. Wa’in kunta ta lamu anna (hathal-amra*) sharrul-lee fi deenee. Wama ashi. Wa ajila amri. Wa’ajilahu. Fasrifhu annee. Wasrifnee anh. Waqdur leyal-khayr haythu kan. Thumma ardini bih.

 

Translation: Oh Allah! I seek Your guidance by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power; I have none. And You know; I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things. Oh Allah! If in Your knowledge, this matter is good for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge, this matter is bad for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it. And ordain for me the good wherever it may be, and make me content with it. (And then mention the matter)

 

What could be better then this? Within five minutes, you have the ultimate answer in your hands! If this person is the best for you in this life and the best for you in the akhira–in other words, the perfect person for you, and you for them–then Allah makes it easy! And if not, then Allah makes that easy too! No worries, no stress, no long-term investment required without a full after-life guarantee!

 

After all, everybody wants what’s best for them. So why not ask the All-Knowing, the All-Hearing, before you make the life-long (and after-life-long) plunge? And after that, he or she is your destiny, so accept it gracefully, and be thankful to Allah for this tremendous blessing. You have achieved what millions of people–with their clubs, their bars, their blind dates, their proms, and their parties–could only dream of: a long-lasting, permanent relationship that is THE best for both of you, in both this life AND the eternal hereafter.

 

May Allah purify our intentions and help us to achieve this great success (ameen)! (If you ARE thinking about getting married, or are already married, read these ten tips for IMMEDIATE benefit inshaAllah to your marriage.)

 

 

What is Deen?

 What is the meaning of the word deen and the word Islam?

 

 To answer this question, it is a must that we refer to the Arabic language dictionaries which still keep the meaning of how the Arabs used to understand the word deen and the word Islam when Qur’an was being revealed. In that period of time, there was no problem with understanding these two words by the Arabs from whom the companions of the prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) came. That generation that transformed the understanding for these two words into reality in their individual and collective lives. As a result, this understanding led them to the guidance, the guidance of Islam. This change was the greatest change in the long history of mankind.

  

The concept of deen: The word deen is used in the Arabic language to give different meanings, most importantly are:

1.      Subjugation, Authority, Ruling and Having Charge

A. He subjugated people to obey. Subjugated here is a literal translation of the verb of the word deen.

B. He has authority over him. Has authority here is a literal translation of the verb of the word deen. In this context, the saying of the prophet (S.A.W.) reveals this meaning, “The intelligent person is the one who has authority over himself and works for the Hereafter” This means that the intelligent person is the one who has subjugated himself and made himself obedient to Allah. In this context, also, the past participle would be subjugated, ruled and submitted. For example, Allah (S.W.T.) says in surat Al-Waqe’ah, (Verse 86 & 87), what can be translated as, “If you are not subjugated, then return it if you are truthful”. This means, if you are not forced by the will of Allah in the issues of death and life, then return the soul to the body after it has left it due to death.

2.      Obedience and Submission due to Subjugation:

3.      The Method and the Habit:

4.      Punishment, Reward and Judgment: The Arabs had a saying, which implies the following: you are treated the same way you treat others.

  

These four linguistic meanings constitute the concept of the word deen in the Qur’an where it implies a comprehensive system of life that is composed of four parts:

1.      The rulership and the authority belong to Allah (S.W.T.).

2.      The obedience and submission to this rulership and authority by those who embraced this deen.

3.      The comprehensive system (intellectual and practical) established by this authority (Allah).

4.      The reward given by this authority (Allah) to those that followed the system and submitted to it and the punishment inflicted upon those who rebel against it and disobey it.

  

Based on this definition of deen, we can summarize that deen is a submission, following and worship by man for the creator, the ruler, the subjugator in a comprehensive system of life with all its belief, intellectual, moral and practical aspects.

After understanding this definition of the Arabic word deen, we realize that it is wrong to translate it to the English with the word “religion”. Furthermore we do not need anyone to come up with a definition for the word deen for us- like many of the enemies of Islam do today- But, we should take precaution and warn Muslims against these conspiracies that are plotted against Muslims to keep them away from the reality of their deen and distort the concept of deen or restrict it to one aspect of life-like they (None Muslim) did with there religion and church after the French Revolution.

 

It is obligatory for us to clarify to the people the reality of deen in the Islamic perspective, also obligatory for us to implant this reality in our youth’s mind so that they will not confuse the concept of deen with all these wrongful and distorting definitions.

  

This is about the definition of the word deen, what about the meaning of the word Islam?

 

Islam in the Arabic language and in Qur’an means total submission and obedience. Allah (S.W.T.) says in surat Al-Imran, (Verse 83), what can be translated as, “Do they seek a deen other than the deen of Allah and to Him all what is in the skies and in the earth have submitted willingly or forcefully and to Him they shall return”

This word Islam had been used in the Qur’an as a symbol for the deen that was revealed to Muhammad (S.A.W.) and Allah clarified that He will not accept from man other deen even if it was from the previous divine deens. Allah (S.W.T.) says in surat Al-Imran, (Verse 85), what can be translated as, “He who chooses other than Islam a deen, it will not be accepted from him and he, in the Hereafter, is among the losers.” This meaning is emphasized by the saying of the prophet (S.A.W.) when he said, “By whom my soul is in His hand, if one, Jew or Christian, heard of me, then died and he/she did not believe in that which I was sent with, then they are from the dwellers of Hell fire.” (Reported by Imam Muslim)

 

Islam is a divine system, with it Allah (S.W.T.) sealed all other deens, and made it a comprehensive system that deals with all aspects of human life (Belief, intellectual, moral and practical) and this system is based on total submission to Allah (S.W.T.) alone and no one else and purifying worship to Him, and adopting all that is authentic from the prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.).